I am not proud to admit it but if I am being honest – I suck. I suck at responding to text messages for days and sometimes weeks, I suck at cleaning out my inbox on a regular basis, I suck at making sure there is always a full tank of gas in my car, I suck at following through on plans. But… I do recognize this so that has to be a step in the right direction. Right?
Life is just crazy and I know I am not alone in feeling like there are just not enough hours in the day or even enough days in the week. Sometimes, I don’t even know what I am so busy with but I know I am stressed out and feeling run down.
In a world where everyone is glued to their mobile devises and constantly scrolling their feeds, it can often be hard to engage and be present in the moment. One thing that I love is that my boyfriend and I made an agreement years ago that each night when we sit down to relax and spend time together before bed, we leave our phones in the kitchen to charge (we do leave the volume turned up for emergencies). It was hard at first and there was a feeling of separation anxiety that we both felt, I won’t deny that. What if someone sends me a text? What if I get an important email? What if I’m tagged in the most hilarious pug meme ever? What if…. The truth is, it can wait. Everyone that knows us, knows if you NEED to reach us – call us!
Once I was able to adjust to not having my phone with me at all times, I started to really embrace this feeling of freedom. I started to spend more time on myself in the evenings and developed a routine that allows me to be more in touch with myself and cater to my needs instead of everyone else. It dawned on me recently that I have an embarrassing amount of sheet masks that all but scream at me for attention every time I open that drawer. This sparked the routine of carving out 20 minutes or so every other day for nothing other than Me Time.
I try my best to do this every other night and I really find that on the off days, I am looking forward to the next Me Time. Since your average sheet mask should be kept on for 15-20 minutes I turn the bedroom lights off, find a comfy spot to lie in bed on my back and turn on relaxation / spa sounds and allow myself to meditate and clear my mind. This is the track that I personally listen to more often than not because it is 23 minutes long so once it is over I know it’s time to get up. (Relaxing Spa Music 1)
Meditation was always something I was aware of but felt I lacked the ability as my mind was usually going in a million different directions at each moment. I found it very hard to sit still and concentrate on nothing… what is nothing and how do you think about it?! I would aim to do this for 5 minutes but whenever I would check the time, it had been seconds that I felt were minutes. But, by doing this with a sheet mask on I have tricked myself into really enjoying the time and find the ability to focus in deeply on my body and my mind.
Since I have been having my little Me Times, I do notice a different in my overall well being. There are true benefits to meditation, it is not just hocus-pocus. I have felt a calming internally and find that I am feeling less stressed and anxious with daily activities. I am more centered and focused in everything that I do and I don’t find myself getting distracted as easily. I have noticed a huge increase is overall self-awareness. I haven’t 100% mastered it but I can recognize my own feelings and detach from them and just be more comfortable in my own skin.
It is so important to make sure that you detach once in awhile- even starting small like I have!
Is there anything that you do to get in touch with yourself? Any tips or tricks for someone like me? I would love to hear them and try them out.