In an effort to brainwash myself into getting my life together (…been on the #hotmess express lately), I decided I needed to make a list – a super list of qualities that I should try and aspire to be (in my dreams or whatever).
No but really, if there was an ideal kind of awesomeness, what would it look like? In other words, I wanted to put some serious, uninterrupted brainstorming time into what it means to be awesome.
It sounds sort of silly, but when you really think about it, I think it’s sort of a fun topic, right? So today I’m writing all about HOW to be awesome and I 127% fully welcome your feedback, additions, (comic relief), and thoughts on the subject.
After spilling (read: word-vomiting ) all my thoughts on paper on how to best answer this question,- how to be awesome – it made sense to break the awesomeness traits into buckets of sorts – or domains of life. This is the first of 3 in this series that I am going to do. I will be breaking it down to be awesome in general, at work, and in relationships and.
How to be awesome in general
Let’s start with the big picture, general stuff, shall we? It only makes sense to start BIG and then go into more detailed areas slash domains of life. Most of these things are pretty general and just straight up simple, easy-to-do actionable tips for being an awesome human. Like I said, I want you to get involved – this is for sure an open-ended topic and one that I’d love for YOU to weigh in on!
- Promote positive vibes. Look, complaining is easy. There’s ALWAYS something negative you could say or something you could whine about. And odds are, you’ll just be saying what everyone else is already thinking (example: it’s really ugly outside today and the weather is super meh). But here’s the thing – negative energy is contagious. Don’t spread that shit, okay? Before speaking, think about it and ask yourself if what you’re saying is really worth putting out there.
- Kill gossip. Avoid gossiping at all costs. Don’t speak negatively about other people. It reflects poorly on you.
- Always tip well. If it was good service and you have a wonderful time, tip well…always.
- Write thank you notes, always. It’s not expected but it shows gratitude and thoughtfulness. Plus, it’s a great opportunity for you to slow down and appreciate what that person did for you. Also, reflecting on it will encourage you to go out of your way for others.
- Take pride in your appearance. Awesome people typically look awesome, am I right? No but really, it makes a difference. And when you look nice, you feel great too! So, wear lipstick and brush that hair!
- Be accommodating. We all like to control things and dictate how we spend our time and of course have our preferences. But when you can, try and be flexible and go with the flow. Life’s a mess, stuff happens and things hardly ever go as (perfectly) planned.
- Manage your expectations. Or better yet, make a habit of identifying your expectations. A lot of the time, we have underlying expectations for certain situations, relationships and events in life without even knowing it. It’ll do you (and everyone else) a great service to identify what those are, evaluate them and then do what you can not to put them on others.
- Be an asset. I could go a lot of different directions with this one but let me just give you a simple, actionable example of something you could do to be an asset to those around you: have a list of restaurants ready to go for the next time someone asks you – “where do you want to go eat?”
- Jam out at any and every opportunity you’ve got. Literally, listen to music that makes you feel alive – whenever you can. Get yourself a Bluetooth speaker for your bathroom and dance your way into getting ready in the morning and then move it to the kitchen and listen to loud, fun music while getting dinner ready. And on that note, make yourself a little go-to happy playlist for when you’re in a funk or having an off day.
- Remember to pause. Intentionally take time to think about stuff. Our schedules are full and life happens fast. Without taking the time to think about things, you’ll find yourself years older without much growth or progress and life’s all about moving forward. Try to keep a journal and reflect on stuff, regularly – it will help you be more intentional with life.
- Learn from your mistakes when you can help it. Don’t harp on your mistakes, but definitely take the time to mentally note the error and realize how you can or would respond differently in the future.
- Think less, do more. Your thoughts and your mind are often your own worst enemies. We can sometimes talk ourselves into a paralysis that can really set us back. If you skipped a few days of working out, SO WHAT. Put it behind you and get back in the gym.
- Do less and do it better. And just in general, remember that our brains (and lives) really don’t function well on overload. But really though, there are studies that prove that our brains really struggle when trying to multitask. So simplify your life where you can and minimize your to-do list if possible. Focus on doing less and going it better. Filter out the good to get the great.
- Stop comparing yourself. Honestly, quit that shit. Excuse my french or judge me if you will but I feel it’s necessary for emphasis here. The comparison game is stupid, unproductive, and soul-sucking – not to mention a complete drain of energy, creative juice and overall moral. Competition can be healthy but learn when you need to take a step back.
None of this is groundbreaking and surely you’ve heard it all before but use this as a gentle reminder of the little things you can start doing today to make you feel awesome and send that image out into the world.
Are these things that you agree with? Do you have any other points to add to this list? Stay tunes for the other 2 parts on this series: how to be awesome at work and how to be awesome in your relationships.
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