Whether it’s letting your personality shine through during an interview, or impressing someone on a first date, it never hurts to turn up your charm and be more charismatic. Being the most magnetic person in a room is a pretty handy skill that can win you friends, while scoring you all sorts of life perks.
If that sounds good, then you might be wondering what it means, exactly, to be charismatic. Think of the best salesperson you know, the person who is able to fit into any group and situation, or the person who is so witty they are able to think of funny and profound things on the fly. This is charisma, this is intelligence, and this is a quality that will take these people far in whatever area they choose to apply this skill.
Once you know how to work it, so to speak, charisma can be used during a job interview to win over your potential boss and land you that dream job. Or on a first date which will likely guarantee a second. Or just when hanging out with friends — especially when they need someone caring, empathetic and fun to hang out with.
Before you can go off into the world inspiring and impressing people, you’ve got to lay the groundwork by focusing on yourself, this will require lots and lots of self-care. While that means different things to different people, it might include exercising, getting lots of sleep, and eating well. Whatever makes you feel your best.
Say “HI” to people throughout the day.
It’s so tempting to trudge through life without looking up. And hey, sometimes that’s all you can do. But there’s no denying the benefits of occasionally making eye contact, smiling, and greeting people. Over time, you will find more people will be drawn to you because you exude happiness. That is magnetic. Happiness is charismatic.
Pay attention to your posture.
Body language is everything when making a first impression (or second, or third). So don’t forget to pay attention to your posture. If you are slumped into your body, that shows you are tired or your self-esteem may be dipping. While it may or may not be true, it never hurts to give off an air of confidence by standing up straighter.
Be as supportive as possible.
Trustworthy, supportive people are great to be around, so go ahead and work on being that kind of girl. One way to start, is by calling up friends to just check on them. Ask how they are, listen, let them vent. I promise they’ll truly appreciate it.
Be proud of your accomplishments.
Humbleness certainly has its place in life, but sometimes you just want to proudly share your accomplishments. When you are at your best and someone acknowledges you, you will glow. When you glow, people will feel it. What could be better than that?
Focus on your best qualities.
While you’re at it, go ahead and focus on your most charming qualities, too. Take a moment and write down all of the things that are wonderful and fantastic about you. Keep those thoughts and memories with you and you’ll soon be one of those wonderfully positive, magnetic people.
Try to live in the moment.
I love staring into my phone and getting tangled in the Instagram web or a dark hole on YouTube just as much as anyone else. But sometimes you just need to put it down and start a real conversation. The more sociable you are, the more people will enjoy your presence. Put down your cell phone. Stop texting and sending emails when you are with people. Engage with the people right in front of you. I assure you they’ll notice and appreciate getting your full, undivided attention.
Work on your self-esteem.
This one is easier said than done, of course. But the more you work on your self-esteem, the more charisma you’ll project into the universe. Charismatic people are really confident people — people confident in their own skin. People who are comfortable in their own skin tend to have more empathy, and are usually more fun to be around.
Find what’s exciting in everyday situations.
Charismatic people have a knack for finding the fun in any situation that is presented to them. Think about the people who make you feel the most alive. More than likely they’re the people who can turn a trip to the grocery store into a fun adventure … that’s charisma. They’re alive in the moment.
Practice actually listening to people.
Whether you’re meeting someone for the first time, or sitting down with an old friend for lunch, make it a point to truly listen to what they have to say. People who do this make those around them feel heard and understood and above all, comfortable. In a world where that rarely happens, this skill will earn you all sorts of great things.
Remember to make eye contact.
Again with the eye contact, I know. But it really is so so important when it comes to projecting that all-important confidence. It all starts with looking someone directly in the eye when speaking. It really can be what makes the difference between impressing someone, or not.
Ask lots of questions.
Whats one trait of likable people? They ask questions. Lots and lots of questions. People love to share their story, and they also deeply enjoy being listened to. While charismatic people are typically thought of as gregarious characters, they also take the time to let someone else shine while participating in the conversation.
Be your most authentic self.
While it can be tempting to change yourself or tweak your personality in order to be liked, the most likable thing you can do is just the opposite. Every time you reject yourself, you kill your inner charisma gene. So go ahead girl and just be you.
They may take a lot of work at first, but these traits are all so charming it’ll definitely be worth the effort. While it’s not important to be “on” 100 percent of the time, knowing how to turn up your charisma is something everyone should know how to do.
Do you think you could benefit from any of these things? Are there any others that you would add?
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