Today’s post is something I’ve been wanting to write for a while, but is kinda heavy so I think I’ve subconsciously been putting it off. Negative self-talk is an issue I deal with frequently and I want to put it out there because I think we all can be unnecessarily hard on ourselves every once in a while. I know I write a lot about positivity and self-care, etc. but the truth is I have some down moments of my own and can find myself in a really negative head space sometimes. I try really hard to be self-aware enough to know when I’m in this space, which is what I want to touch on in this post.
I sat down and put some thought (basically did a brain dump and pulled out what made sense) into it and the following is what I came up with for how to deal with negative self-talk.
Be aware enough to know when you’re doing it.
I mentioned this above and I think it’s the most important thing to take away from this post. Knowing when you’re in a tough spot mentally and taking it all out on yourself is key. Because, no matter what your situation is, being mean to yourself isn’t going to help solve anything. Honestly, I think self-awareness is one of the best characteristics a person can have.
Ask yourself why.
If you find yourself talking or thinking negatively about yourself, pause for a second and ask yourself why? Did you miss a deadline? Forget an appointment? Drop the ball in some way at work? Doing any of those things can make you feel like a failure darn quick. I GET IT. But how does beating yourself over it help in any way? Instead, ask yourself why you’re being so hard on yourself and then write a quick list of two or three things that you can do to change the circumstance for next time. Take action! Rethink your priorities, evaluate your goals. etc. There are just a lot more productive things you can do to help yourself than sitting around making yourself feel like total crap, know what I mean?
Do something you enjoy.
This kind of goes back to the self-awareness thing, but you need to know how to get yourself happy. KNOW what gives you true joy! That way when you need to bring yourself back up you know exactly what to do. For me, it’s going on a walk or having some quiet time snuggling with Winston, or even a call to my grandmother always seems to go a long way. Whatever it is for you, just do it and get yourself smiling again.
Give yourself grace.
This is another very important lesson I’ve learned in the last year or so. Giving yourself grace means you’re not being so critical of yourself and you’re making room for those “mess-ups” or “drop the ball” moments. The more I learn to extend myself some grace, the less I find myself in a bad spot mentally. It makes a huge difference, trust me!
I truly, truly hope you find this helpful. This is definitely an issue I’m still working on myself, but if putting it out there helps any of you then it’s worth it!
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