Beauty

7 hygiene habits to ditch in your 20s because, there’s no more room for excuses.

I’ve talked about it before but your 20s are that weird decade where you simultaneously feel like a kid and an adult. I think that because this is my last year as a 20something, I have become obsessed with it!  We often still follow our old habits from college or even high school that are totally teenager appropriate, but don’t exactly spell responsible adult. But as your teens slip further away and 30 inches closer, there are several hygiene habits you should ditch in your 20s. You may have gotten away with them ten years ago, but some of these things just aren’t going to fly any longer.

As you’ve probably heard a million times, things change when you age. You can’t necessarily get away with things that you did when you were young because your body and skin are changing, so it’s important to ditch bad habits when you’re young and set yourself up with a good routine that can carry you through adulthood. It’s easy to get lazy when it comes to beauty and hygiene, but it’s time to change all of that. Even if it takes you an extra five, fifteen, or even thirty minutes, it’s worth it, and your future self will thank you.

It might sound gross, but most of us are guilty of following some of these hygiene habits, and you should totally forget about them ASAP.

Makeup remover is not a cleanser.

The important thing is just making sure you take your makeup off, right? Wrong. The pads aren’t cleansing your skin — they’re just taking the makeup off. Even though it’s an extra step, you still need to cleanse as well as remove your makeup.

Clean your darn brushes!

Just because they don’t look dirty, doesn’t mean they don’t need washing. Products and bacteria build up on your brushes, which you then put on your face, causing break outs. Make sure you wash your brushes every two weeks or so, minimum.

Fabric spray is not the answer.

Just like on your makeup brushes, bacteria can build up on your sheets and pillowcases! When you lay on them every night you are transferring bacteria back onto your skin and clogging your pores, it could cause you to break out, so make sure you actually wash your sheets every week! EVERY WEEK!

Stop touching your pimples!

You know this one without me having to telling you, but as tempting as it is – do not pop your pimples. In addition to potentially scarring your face, popping pimples can cause bacteria to spread to other areas of your face, creating more breakouts. Just don’t do it anymore.

FLOSS!!!

Brushing your teeth isn’t going to cut it — you need to take the extra two minutes and floss, too. It removes bacteria and plaque from your teeth in places that your tooth brush can’t get, so if you want to maintain good oral hygiene, you better floss.

Water is not enough.

Shaving sucks in general, and spending a lot of time on it makes it even worse, but don’t just wet (or worse, dry) and shave. You should be using a gel, cream, soap, or something on there to coat your body so that you don’t cut yourself and you get a closer shave.

Up your soap game!

If you haven’t invested in a cleanser yet, it’s time to. Soaps have a high pH, so when you use a soap that has a pH of 13, it strips your skin of natural oils and lipids, and so it makes you look a lot older and makes your skin more irritated. Instead, use a beauty bar, pH neutral, or non-soap cleanser. You are an adult now, start reading the labels and educating yourself on what you are using on your body.

It might be hard to break these habits now, but trust me, you will be so thankful you did in the long run.

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XOXO.

B.

Beauty · Fashion · Real Talk

How to battle the comparison game on Instagram.

Social media is notreal life. It is a highlight reel.

I don’t think that can be said too many times. Can I get an amen? I know that I personally need to be reminded of this on the regular. Because, even though I KNOW this, I still find myself falling for the marketing schemes of fellow digital influencers, which is that things are exactly as they appear. But let’s shed some light on that notion. Most of the time, the reality of the situation is that things are most certainly not always as they appear – or as we’re led to believe by way of imagery.

The fact of the matter is that the job of a digital influencer is to do just that – influence. And a lot of the time, influence means inspiring by way of portraying “the ideal”.

I don’t mean to discount bloggers (HELLO! I am one!), but I’m just stating the fact that most of the photos are a little staged. Because they have to be – it’s just the nature of the business. Unfortunately, I don’t have cameras that follow me around 24/7, so if I want to capture a moment, I have to create it.

But anyway, I’m just reminding you of the reality and encouraging you to remember this truth the next time you’re fighting comparison. I just wanted to state that things aren’t always as they seem. Even I fall for it, which makes me laugh because I know what goes into getting a good photo! And trust me, it’s not as easy as it looks!

But just in case you needed someone to tell you AGAIN, here I am. (hi!) Remember that the photos/lifestyle are just that – a projection. You don’t know what the reality of the situation is like or what their day actually looked like; you can only see what they chose to “project” or share with you. And us bloggers are good at tailoring what we share so that you get the best snapshot of our lives. Remember that it’s believable because it’s supposed to be.

What to do when you fall into the Instagram comparison trap?

It has basically become part of the new norm these days – playing the comparison game. Getting sucked into the ugly downwards spiral. It’s always been something humans struggle with, but social media has brought the issue to a whole new level! So I just accept that it’ll continue to happen no matter how hard I try to fight it.

The important thing to learn and recognize is that it’s HOW you respond to these feelings that will make all the difference. So accept that it’s normal, but be proactive in how you deal with it.

Here are a few tips I’ve come up with to help you do this well. Just to be clear, I’m more so talking about the comparison game when it comes to influencers and people on social media who “curate” images.

Admit you’re playing the comparison game.

Well, first and foremost, recognize that you’ve fallen into a TRAP (because that’s what it is!). And admit the simple fact that you are comparing yourself, even though you know you shouldn’t be. Sometimes we do this in our subconscious and there is power in actually admitting it to ourselves and bringing it into the forefront of our mind.

Don’t be fooled – bring in the truth.

Accept and appreciate that what you see is the ideal and that it’s either someone’s job to get cool photos like that, or they’re adding to their brand (usually).

Imagine what it was like to take that photo.

Remind yourself that they had to “get” that photo – try to imagine what that situation looked like. Who took the photo? How did they capture that moment so perfectly? Even just considering these two questions will make you feel a little better about yourself and your situation.

Purge who you’re following.

If this person always makes you feel bad about yourself, then do yourself a favor and hit that unfollow button. Part of being an influencer is providing positive inspiration – which hopefully you get from those you choose to follow – but if not, #bye. You’re supposed to be inspired and not feel worse about yourself because of what someone is posting. Ain’t nobody got time for that.

Don’t let their awesomeness discount yours.

In other words, just because she’s pretty or having a really cool experience (like, all the time…) doesn’t say anything about you or your life. You can both be pretty and awesome. I know it sounds silly, but it helps me to think like this. And also, it doesn’t diminish how pretty or awesome you are. I also remind myself of my mantra “good for her, not for me” in these times.

Get off social media!

Taking a break is always a good idea! I do it at least one day a week and I think that’s okay. I usually only open my personal pages on the weekend and leave my blog for Monday-Friday. When you feel yourself getting down-in-the-dumps over where you are in life (in comparison to hers), free yourself from that by just simply cutting it out of your life! I promise it’ll still be waiting for you when you choose to come back.

Do something to lift your spirits.

Get off the couch and do something for yourself! Get dressed or do the dishes or something that will move your life forward, no matter how big or small! Shifting your focus will make the world of a difference! And I guarantee you that you’re better off spending your energy on doing something than sitting there watching someone else do something.

I’m sure I could go on about this FOREVER, but in all honesty, it’s something I think about pretty much every single day. Which is silly because looking at social media is a choice that I make, but it’s also part of my job. But still, I think I could handle things much better – and I’m guessing I’m not the only one who feels like that. Maybe? Either way, I thought it was important to be honest about my social media life as an influencer, and to let you know that I struggle with it just as much as the next person.

If you can add to this conversation, please do. It makes me feel less alone and like I’m going somewhere with honest talks like this. So please comment either here or on Instagram @LiveLaughLearn.blog if you feel like it!

XOXO.

B.

FOR YOUR ENTERTAINMENT – lol.

After writing this post, I was inspired to go through some of my photos and tell you what was actually going on and give you some insight to what was happening behind the scenes:

laundry day.jpgAn insane amount of spring cleaning was done this day and countless repeats of wash, dry, fold, repeat went into this photo. It wasn’t even meant to be used for Instagram or the blog but to sent to my boyfriend explaining my day but with some cropping and lightening, it made a pretty good photo to share and put up for The weekend hostess with the mostess.

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You can’t see it but there two children in the window of the house across the street that were watching me try and capture this photo for maybe 15 minutes. I was walking Winston alone and didn’t have anyone to take it for me so after multiple attempts and weird children watching, I made due. Would have been nice if the garbage bin wasn’t in the way but oh well, #life.


Beauty

When to use which types of shampoo.

You know that one physical feature that you won’t always admit out loud that you love it and are very proud of it? For me, that is my hair. I have always actually loved my hair and I secretly love being complimented on it also! Since I have always had long hair that means I have to go the extra mile to take care of it.

My hair care obsession started years ago when I heard about purple shampoo for the first time, or saw it I should say! Because I’m always curious, I picked it up and read what the heck it does for your hair. Turns out, it helps brighten blonde hair and takes brass out of highlighted or lightly-colored hair. Who knew?! Well, this got me thinking about all the different types of shampoos out there. I mean, have you ever stopped and looked at the shampoo aisle? THERE’S SO MUCH.

I’ll admit it, I used to just reach for whatever I liked the smell of and would use that until I got sick of it and moved onto the next scent. It wasn’t until I started coloring my hair again as an adult that I realized I probably wasn’t utilizing the benefits of different types of shampoos. Over the last few years I have not only learned SO much about shampoo, but I have become a master at stocking my own shower. I change my hair up so often and I’m always switching out my blonde shades so it has taken me a while to perfect my shampoo routine and find out what works and what doesn’t work for me.

Since I secretly love talking about my hair, I thought I would share my secrets with you and some of what I have found works for me.

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Purple Shampoo

My natural hair is a very dark brown but I have a ton of different blondes in it at any given time and I work really hard to prevent that blonde from turning brassy. I have used so many different types of purple shampoos but my all time favorite right now is the Daddy-O from Lush  This stuff was amazing! I usually end up leaving it in my hair for a few minutes to let it sink in two of three times a week, although you could use it daily if you wanted to. With this, my highlights look cooler and just brighter (but not brassy). If you lighten your hair at all, I’d highly recommend!

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Clarifying Shampoo

They’re a really good idea, don’t over look them! Especially if you tend to get build up, whether from lots of products (like me!) or have oily hair. Using a clarifying shampoo a few times a month essentially gets rid of buildup and leaves your hair super clean. Definitely don’t use it too often though, as they can dry out your hair and scalp if used too much, and make color fade. Also, if you have fine or thin hair, clarifying shampoo is known to add a little extra volume, so if you have a special occasion or need your hair to really be on point, reach for this shampoo in the shower. I would put my life in DryBar’s hands when it comes to their products and I am so obsessed with the On The Rocks Clarifying Charcoal shampoo and conditioner.

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Color Protecting / Sulfate-Free Shampoo

This is something I have always used (well, since coloring my hair), and if you color yours and don’t use something like this, get on board now! While there are mixed reviews scientifically, I always found my color to last better and longer if I’m regularly using one of these shampoos. I personally really like the Color Minded by Bumble and Bumble right now and have been using it the last little while. Since it’s super mild, sulfate free and won’t strip color as fast, I’m liking it. Sulfate free is also gentler on your skin, so if you have a sensitive scalp or eczema, more reason to start using one.

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Frizz Fighting Shampoo

I’m pretty sure we all think our hair is somewhat frizzy, but these types of shampoos should really only be used when frizz is serious and completely out of control. Otherwise, especially if you have naturally oily or flat hair, these shampoos will weigh down your hair even more. Instead, use an oil on your ends after you style or round brush to eliminate frizz while using the right shampoo. If your hair truly is frizzy, find a shampoo that gently cleanses without roughing up the cuticles (and leading to frizz). I’ve heard great things about Paul Mitchell’s Super Skinny.

Clear Shampoo

If your hair is fine, stick to a clear shampoo on the regular, as the creamy versions are usually made for curlier or thicker hair and can lead to build up in fine hair. Just a quick tip a hair stylist told me once and I wanted to include! I asked a friend with fine hair and she loves Pantene’s Sheer Volume Shampoo for adding volume without getting all the buildup.

There are obviously a bunch of other shampoos that are pretty obvious when to use and why, but I wanted to touch on these 5 above since they aren’t as generic. I prefer to switch up my shampoos every wash, and though I don’t think that’s necessary, my hair seems to be retaining the specific benefits of each. And, the purple and clarifying have been life-changing additions and I strongly encourage you to give them a try if you haven’t already!

I’d love to hear from you and find out what type of shampoo(s) you use and if there are any specific ones I should try! Lets chat about it either in the comment section or on Instagram @LiveLaughLearn.blog

XOXO.

B.